Every once in a while I meet up with a couple that makes it very clear that the wedding ceremony is not their priority on their big day.  As someone who finds a great deal of comfort, and connection, through the arts of ceremony, and ritual, it makes my heart cry a little. I also take it as a personal challenge to convince those couples that the ceremony, and the rituals within, are the most important part of their entire wedding. I usually succeed. In simplest terms, Ceremony is when we join together in honor, or anticipation, of transformation.